What would you think of a son in his 20s wanting to move into the backyard garage who has CP?

What would a person or mother think of a male in his 20s who has CP and Terrets moving into the garage unattached to the house? A guy friend of mine is in his mid 20s and still lives at home due to his disibility.

Even though becuase of his problem he has not met any girls if he did meet one he could invite her inside.





He wants to move into the backyard garden shed/garage. He doesn't have a stable enough job to move out of his parents house. His parents are okay with this.



The building does not have plumbing inside which would not bother him. Due to his problem he makes noises at night and can use some space from his parents. While his mother has a close relationship with him she still wants to set curfews of when he would have to be inside the garage/garden shed.



He would get tons of self esteem that he sort of has his own place with his own door to the outside.



What do people think?

What would you think of a son in his 20s wanting to move into the backyard garage who has CP?
I personally think it would do wonders for his self esteem also. He probably still has an emotional dependency on his mother and this could be the first step in establishing his own independence. If he moves into the garage and gets tired of going inside to use the restroom etc., he will probably want to move back in his house. If he likes his independence, maybe he will want to get his own place. Whatever, it will be his choice.
Reply:If the person is comfortable with it then it would probably be ok.



Its not imprisonment without a bathroom if the person is ok with it.



It may not be appropriate for him if he still needs his mother to calm him down etc at bed time though.



He could make the shed in to a 'den' type place where he can get away from his parents though. This is what another guy on here thought of doing
Reply:Oh gosh. The thing about this kind of environment is that it's pre-disposed to damp (therefore chest infections) and I imagine it might be cold at night time.



As he is an adult, can he not get disability income support where you live, to get a small apartment nearby with all necessary amenities? The disorder is very much on spectrum so it depends on how capable he is. If he needs a visiting assistant maybe that could be arranged too.



I approve of his independence, but I don't approve of him living in a shed. It's degrading for somebody in their 20s. If he was a teenager who wanted a few hours for privacy then maybe.
Reply:No,,,If you need your mother to calm you down....You might hurt yourself if you go into a fit with noblody there to calm you..



Maybe you should start working on a plain to get out on your own...there housing for the disabled...Your mother not going to be around all you life.....
Reply:i think u should let him move out in the garage because its not like hes moving to a different city!

Also I think he will feel better knowing he can have his space and he will now be kind of independent.Just check up on him a lot.
Reply:#1 The person is you. You have asked this question several times before. One easy way to know it is you is you spell the name of your disability wrong.



#2 No self-respecting girl would visit you in a garden shed with no bathroom.



#3 It is unlikely that the local zoning board would be OK with this arrangement if they found out.



Instead, why not create a daytime space - a room where you can have visitors and call your own separate from the house, but still go to bed at night in your own room. This is likely #1 legal, #2 would not seem so weird to a girl visiting during the day, and #3 should provide some of the self-esteem you seem to think you can get from a building.
Reply:I think if financially able, the parents could plumb and wire the garage and transform it into a very nice one room studio. For him I think his new freedom would be great.
Reply:No woman would want to visit with a man in a backyard garden shed/garage without no bathroom.



To have a garden shed/garage without no bathroom is good if a person wants temporary privacy and temporary space from their parents.



It is a bad ideal to sleep in a garden shed/garage for various reasons.
Reply:I think its a rotten idea. If he needs self esteem he should talk to the people at UCP and ask them how he can get into their residential programs. Then perhaps he can be in a home of his own with some roommates. people who know what he needs and what he can do on his own.

His mother can still visit and call. he can still come and go even get work in their workshops if he wanted to.
Reply:I am sorry but I don't have a girlfriend even those I am ... living with parent.



Give up getting girlfriend unless you have your own real place.
Reply:This could be on the dangerous side I think. If she would have to go to him every night to saln him down and turn the lights out it seems like a lot of extra work for her. Are you sure he would be safe alone? I think that's the main thing to be concerned about. While it may be good for him to have some privacy------------if he's always lived with his mom, this could cause a big prob;em. Talk to a professional and see what they think. Some one that knows him would be more capable of knowing what to do. This could be VERY risky. Check if out from all angles before making a move.