How can I politely encourage my neighbour to leave our property?

I have a good friend and neighbour, Tony, but he likes a drink. He often lets himself into our garden and into the potting shed, where he whiles away many hours drinking cans of beer. Not only does he leave the cans lying around everywhere, but I just feel anxious knowing that he is in there while we go about our lives. We're very close but I don't want to embarass him by just asking him to 'stop'. What's the tactful solution?

How can I politely encourage my neighbour to leave our property?
Pick all the **** he leaves, and throw it all over his yard.



Then take a nice giant **** on his porch.



Tell me if he trys it with you again.
Reply:I don't think embarrasing him will be a problem; this guy obviously has no shame! The next time you see him going in there, walk in behind him and say "Hey, what's up? Everything okay?" Just so he knows that you know he's inthere without addressing what's happened before. Maybe if he knows that you're on to him, it will stop him from doing it. If he keeps it up after that, you're going to have to talk to him. You may have to put a lock on the shed, as others have said.



Also, this seems to suggest that your friend has a problem with alcohol that needs to be addressed for his own good. That's something to consider in all of this as well.
Reply:Put a lock on the shed, I know it is not tactful but if you ask him nicely first, maybe it will show hime. The most tactful way is hard, I know the truth is hard to tell people we are not very close too sometimes, but it is the best. It is not fair to you that he is using your property where you should feel safe to conduct alchoholic tendencies. Best of wishes to you
Reply:Padlocks on gates and the shed itself so there is no way he can get in. Put up little signs saying no admittance private. This is more serious than you think since your insurance would need to cover him if he fell and hit his head and you could be sued. I know it seems strange but that is the way the legal profession works. I wouldnt personally speak with him since he is under the influence and will not listen. So spend what it takes to secure your property
Reply:That is pretty rude of him in the first place.

Put a lock on the shed !

I would not consider that a friend.
Reply:have the police remove him and they will lock him up or a 357 mag does wonders.
Reply:I'm afraid you're going to have to tell him, but try to do it when he's sober. he's actually trespassing if he enters your property without your permission, so you have the right to ask him to leave. If he doesn't, then make a list of times and days he's been there, along with photographic evidence of the state of your garden when he eventually does leave, and then ask him one more time to leave, informing him that you will go to the police if he doesn't stop.



By the way do you have children? if so, then imagine that they're playing in the garden one day and come across the cans. There may be a little drink still left in them, and the child could take a drink. Because it takes very little alcohol to have a serious effect on a small child, then the child could end up in hospital. That should be enough to encourage you to stop thinking of his feelings, as he clearly isn't thinking about yours.



Do you often leave the garden gate unlocked? If you do, then I would suggest buying a strong padlock and using it, along with the bolt, to keep him out. If he asks why, you could simply say that you're nervous of people coming in and damaging your garden. If he is the good friend you think he is, he'll understand and stay away.



i'm a little puzzled about his visits to your garden to indulge his habit, by the way - have you asked him why he has to drink in your garden - does he have a wife who's banned him from the house while he's drinking? If so, then I thinnk you should do the same, for your sake and for your family.
Reply:You can tell him you just met with your homeowner insurance guy and you discovered (you can make this up as you go along) that you cannot have ANY guests on your property unless you are there because you are not covered for any liability that might occur...e.g., if he falls (drunk) and hurts himself he can sue you.

If he still gives you a problem, then make him sign a waiver absolving you of any liability that may happen to him...that might scare him off.



EDIT: He is banned from drinking in his own house and you are enabling him to continue his drinking? You must do whatever is necessary to stop this; he needs to go into AA just restricting his drinking will not stop it he needs help and he needs it NOW.