My dad confuses me?

my dad has a very well off income, he spends ￡1000's of pounds on building motorbikes and mucking around in his shed and on his car (bentley) and me and my sister get ￡10 a week. but it's strange because sometimes he's really tight and other times he chucks his money around. it's like he spent ￡740 on 3 radios, one in car, one in van and one in shed, but me and sister dug up his garden because he said he'd pay us and we're saving up, so we were back breakingly digging for 3 hours and he gave us a fiver each. he's always like this. it's not about money, i just don't get it. (by the way, sometimes he does chuck his money around in our direction, he's not just selfish.)

My dad confuses me?
maybe he wants you to EARN the money.
Reply:Clearly you and you sister dont want for anything in life and your very lucky to be in that position......when you earn your own money then you can spend it all on what u like and want for yourself untill then lay off your dad he sounds like a decent guy who provides....maybe instead of moaning about him you should dig the garden for free to show him your not just a couple of money grabbing teenagers
Reply:It is his money not yours. So you are lucky you got the 5 bucks for the garden. When you grow up and earn your own you can do what you want with it. He owes you nothing other than food in your belly, clothes on your back (and not designer ones), a roof over your head and education and love.
Reply:maybe he's just trying to do the best by you, %26amp; show you that he can't always just spoil you %26amp; fix everything by giving you money

if he did throw money at you all the time, he might think you'll never gain independence or be able to acheieve things you can be proud of

:)
Reply:Just because he buys things doesnt mean hes loaded the cost of living has gone up, remember he feeds and clothes you and pays the bills which isnt cheap so appreciate that if your Dad works hard he is entitled to buy himself things you probably get a lot on birthdays and xmas
Reply:HE'S SHOWING YOU , YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE , AND THAT MONEY DOESN'T COME EASILY . YOU DON'T SOUND LIKE YOU WANT FOR MUCH . SO ENJOY AND MAYBE AGREE ON A CASH AMOUNT B4 DIGGING THE GARDEN NEXT TIME LOL
Reply:well if your old enough, get a job outside of the home that way you'll get fairly payed for what you do, try babysitting or something.
Reply:He can do what he likes with HIS money, because HE worked for it. When you get a job you can spend away darlin'
Reply:SO WHAT LIVE IN THE REAL WORLD!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:its his dosh to do what he wants with it
Reply:maybe he feels that you should do somethings for free rather than charging him. Some actions are their own reward
Reply:Why don't you just sit down and tell him this? Tell him it confuses you that he seems to spend frivilously, but is miserly with his children. Tell him that makes you feel that you are worth less to him than his car. Or whatever it makes you feel.



He may not realize he's doing this. He may be doing it on purpose, but not aware that your feelings are hurt.



But understand this, it is his money. Unless he inherited it all, he works for it. It is not an allowance, his efforts bring it in. If he is trying to teach you a work ethic, fine. If he is trying to teach you the value of money fine. But tell him his unpredicatble and inconsistent generosity confuses you and muddles the lesson.



If you are not upset, tell him you just don't get it and want to understand.