Blooming teenagers?

my son is 16 left school and doing year at college

he went out last nght with a few friends to a friends house as his friends parents were out for the night.

off he went quite happy but when i went to the fridge later on he had helped himself to half a dozen of the bottles lager that were in there. little sod. i have had him cleanin g up the garden and shed this morning to pay for what he took. also told him how disapointed i am with his actions

Blooming teenagers?
What he did was wrong. Unlike my Mother, you punished him and followed through with it. My Mum doesn't do that to my brother in similar situations.



Hopefully he'll learn his lesson!
Reply:why are you surprised? this is what the lil brats do!
Reply:From where I come from, 16 is still a kid and entering college doesn't make one an adult. You have your own rules, enforce them. Kid or not, if he's in your house, he follows your rules.
Reply:Give him a bit of freedom, he's almost an adult, I think you have to either let him drink lager or watch him rebel.



-5 ! i wish i hadnt answered. **** it electrify the beer.
Reply:Its disapointing but havent we all done that?? Its just part of being 16. Don't be too concerned but you do need to lay down the law and set boundries.
Reply:He should have asked but at least he wasn't drinking in the streets! :)
Reply:teens will be teens. your lucky that this is the worst that has happened. just keep a closer eye on him. everything will turn out alright.
Reply:To be honest with you he was just being a TEEN that's what we do(i am 18) we all do those things because we are just now learning about life.



Giving a break we all have been there and done that.

:)
Reply:do not let you kid drink. i was a child who drank, which lead to drugs, then to babies. And don't give me that bullshit that if you raise them right, in the right atmosphere that they'll know better, cause the do know better and that doesn't mean a damn thing. My babies father grew up in a stable family and he had his first child at 20, now we have two kids. So what if young kids do the right thing when they have kids. My now husband and I id the right thing, we don't drink any more we don't do drugs, we don't do anything. The only reason i can be a stay at home mom, which i love but don't want for anyone my age, is that my husband joined the military to care for his family. Yes, the we're going to ship you off to Iraq, hopefully you'll see your family in 6 months, don't count on it though, military. Don't get me wrong, I'm proud that he stood up and did what was right, but do you want your son to have to make that decision. Give him a beer when he's 21, not 16. By the way, you handled this situation beautifully and sorry about my rant. But this situation is a little tough and i don't want anybody to make any easily preventable mistakes.
Reply:Well from what you wrote your son is a good kid. I mean he is 16 and in COLLEGE. Theres just not many kids like that now days. Im a 15 year old and well my dad does let me drink ... he dont buy me the beer or anything but if I get drunk he dont get mad .. He knows I am responsible and I really appreciate him trusting me like this . His trust towards me might be why I have such a good relationship with him. Now my mom is really striked on me and to tell you the truth our relationship is not good. I think you should let your son have fun and enjoy life , but hey if you dont his still going to do it. Behind your back , but he'll do it. Im telling you because I do it behind my moms back all the time. Its better to let your kids know that they can trust you and do things infront of you rather than them doing it behind you ,this way atleast you know.
Reply:good on you. keep up the good parenting.
Reply:that wasn't right if he told u that he was going to hes friend house when the parents weren't there its OK but still hes 16 and he can behave him self if u can pass college don't worry just let him do whatever he wants.
Reply:wots ur sons number
Reply:He's 16, it's normal!



You should count your blessings that he's accepting responsibility for his actions and doing jobs to make up for it, when I was 16 I would have said f*ck off! lol, I was a horrible teenager!
Reply:the drinking is problem only if it is binge drinking what do you and your partner drink around him? IE was it responsible drinking or was it to the point of a drunken stepper? lead by example.

let him have something to drink in front of you if he can have it with a meal or something then he would be less incline to drink in binges as he will see it as why bother when i can have it at home and not in such quintets if you do that right with him
Reply:Better that he takes yours than buys it illegally. I'd play it cool: keep a six pack in the fridge this year when he's around, but tell him you expect him to inform you and pay you for it if he's taking it. Push the "don't drink and drive" message hard. Since he's already in college, you need to treat him as if he's an adult, even though he is only 16. College kids drink. All you can do is encourage him to be responsible about it.
Reply:He-he..As a teenager myself i can see why he would try and do it.. he's just trying to impress his mates, dont be to harsh on him though..i think all teenagers do something like that at some point in their life..just say that you would rather he didnt do it again, if you get to strict on him he will just rebel and keep on doing it just to get back at you
Reply:yes i think that what u did was the correct way to handle it. i prefer a punishment of this sort to shouting and screaming which never seems to get anywhere and teaches them that this is the way to handle a problem.
Reply:you should leave him have his fun once in a while,hes only young once.at least hes at colledge and hasn't dropped out.
Reply:LOL!!



Make it worse, you could make him clean in a maids outfit. Then take pictures and post them on the net!! LOL